Punishment

As we speak I am punishing my girl for the first time. For the D/s dynamic this is not my strong point. I find I can have too much empathy for a person. But as I learn it is something I need to do to help grow a power exchange at least with certain people. Everyone is different. For example some people are motivated by pain. Others by fear. Some need positive reinforcement some do not. Sense she is a bit of a masochist she is sitting by herself bound and gagged blindfolded without me saying a word to her. I hope this will help reinforce her training to me. I do look forward to cuddling afterwords. I need to post some more soon. Keep watching!!!

Blurr

What a weekend. I have not been able to get back to my creative writing. I could not tell at times when my play seasons ended and vanilla time began. Introduced my girl to my hood with bondage. To the bondage gas mask and many other fun things we shared. Awesome time so here is a slightly earlier pic to describe my weekend with a picture.

The intimacy of BDSM

I'm back after a long hiatus. There have been many changes in my life sense the last post. Relationships ending and a new one beginning which is now growing strong and looks to go stronger.

BDSM is very strong both physically mentally and emotionally. For BDSM to truly feel right I need those thing with someone I play with. I like doing very "bad" things to people I like. Control and objectification seriously turn me on. But to do this I must have an intimate connection. When I control someone we become one. That person is an extension of me. To do this I must care deeply about that person. For what I do is an us thing. I am apart of them too.

This bound girl bellow, her connection wit me as we stair into each others eyes the more control I want. What starts as pictures ends as much more as we connect as the time allows us. But knowing we both really like what we do to each other to become this ONE puts a smile to my face :)

Leaving my mark

It has been too long and I have been slack on writing in my blog... I need a secretary lol. Any how I wanted to reflect on the end of a great weekend with my pet. When I leave I always enjoy leaving a reminder of what we did, and what she means to me. I use a figure knife which I have displayed in this blog before. I take the a scratch her just so there is a nice welt left behind. I tried to do it in low light which did no leave as clean of a mark as I wanted but none the less I think she looked beautiful with my mark on her. After taking what is mine she curls up at my feet just as we both need to part. She is hard to say goodbye too, as we live 4 hours away, but well worth knowing she will remember the mark I left and the anticipation for our next meeting.

When to take the reins

I always think to myself when I see a lovely young lady what does she like. Does she like giving up control. How would it be for us if she submitted to me. How she would look in clothing of my choosing. Let us say this person does submit to me. I always like taking full control but How fast do I take it. What is too much control. I have been told I was too relaxed in the past. Guess I need to take the reins quicker. But the good part with mistakes is you learn from them.

Sadism

I am quite the control freak, yet I am not much of a Sadist. In fact I would most things that I do are because I want to do them or I want to gain more control. In this I have found mind fucks, being strong for them, humiliation and sensual domination help much this more. I will occasionally have a sadistic streak in me which I need to release but even then it because I want to not because I enjoy giving pain. I would like to ask how sadism helps yuo sadist and masochist with the D/s dynamic.

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Immersion of Dominace and Submssion

In everyday life I enjoy just the fact of living. I have many interest and I try to indulge them all. What gets me going is a feminine figure and the personality to match. Submissive tenancies excite the dominance from within. For me even being the control freak that I am have no interest in taking submission from one who does not want it. But those that do its like an anticipation on what I will take and what we will become. What i like to do at the beginning of most play dates now if possible is to wear my locking metal play collar. I love the way it looks and love the way it takes and stand for control. For the rest of the date they are mine. From there I do as I please: bondage, discipline, obedience, domination. This is to transform them to my toy. They are mine to play with to use, to have serve me. For the them they are completely powerless, but in a way they gain power and a freedom which comes from it. But it is not about me or her.... it is US.

And for those that have shared with me... Thank you and your welcome

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