I am quite the control freak, yet I am not much of a Sadist. In fact I would most things that I do are because I want to do them or I want to gain more control. In this I have found mind fucks, being strong for them, humiliation and sensual domination help much this more. I will occasionally have a sadistic streak in me which I need to release but even then it because I want to not because I enjoy giving pain. I would like to ask how sadism helps yuo sadist and masochist with the D/s dynamic.