When to take the reins

I always think to myself when I see a lovely young lady what does she like. Does she like giving up control. How would it be for us if she submitted to me. How she would look in clothing of my choosing. Let us say this person does submit to me. I always like taking full control but How fast do I take it. What is too much control. I have been told I was too relaxed in the past. Guess I need to take the reins quicker. But the good part with mistakes is you learn from them.

Sadism

I am quite the control freak, yet I am not much of a Sadist. In fact I would most things that I do are because I want to do them or I want to gain more control. In this I have found mind fucks, being strong for them, humiliation and sensual domination help much this more. I will occasionally have a sadistic streak in me which I need to release but even then it because I want to not because I enjoy giving pain. I would like to ask how sadism helps yuo sadist and masochist with the D/s dynamic.

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Immersion of Dominace and Submssion

In everyday life I enjoy just the fact of living. I have many interest and I try to indulge them all. What gets me going is a feminine figure and the personality to match. Submissive tenancies excite the dominance from within. For me even being the control freak that I am have no interest in taking submission from one who does not want it. But those that do its like an anticipation on what I will take and what we will become. What i like to do at the beginning of most play dates now if possible is to wear my locking metal play collar. I love the way it looks and love the way it takes and stand for control. For the rest of the date they are mine. From there I do as I please: bondage, discipline, obedience, domination. This is to transform them to my toy. They are mine to play with to use, to have serve me. For the them they are completely powerless, but in a way they gain power and a freedom which comes from it. But it is not about me or her.... it is US.

And for those that have shared with me... Thank you and your welcome

comments are encouraged

Art and the Imagination

I would like to give this post to a friend of mine, Sonic13, that has done some artwork that I am quite fond of. I would say his style similar to that of a Japanese animation artist but with his own unique twist to it






Check out more of his work here at Deviantart.com
I must say I imagine wonderful thing when I see these pix.

Tech

Latex Kitty

This is a pic I took of a lovely latex pet about 4 months ago. I will let the pic speak for itself. My comments are as follows:

:)
;)
>:)

enjoy

Fetlife Events

This is a curiosity to me. On Fetlife you can post that you are or that you might be going to a certain event. I have never advertised that I would go to an event. I would like to get an idea of the advantage or what other Fetlife users like about this feature. Just a curiosity. Please comment on why you do or do not do this. Thanks for the input.

Getting Back on the Sattle

After a brief dealing with seasonal depression, I am finally coming back out of self induced shell. Today was the first time in a while I have enjoyed meeting new kinksters in my area and really being myself. No subbie for me at this time, but I'm sure I will find a new pet. For the time being I will enjoy life and being single.